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Chloe’s Consciousness Training
Chloe’s Consciousness Training is a program in behavioral changes. I use actionable tools derived from the work of Freud, Jung, Eric Berne, and Pat Allen, including Transactional Analysis (TA) & Androgynous Semantic Realignment (ASR). Whether you are working on a romantic relationship, a business relationship, or a relationship with yourself, you will see results very quickly. This work appeals especially to Alpha women who have a very strong masculine side and a very strong feminine side. I teach you how to employ each side to its best use to get what you want.
Some of the services I provide include:
Relationship & Dating advice
Mediation and conflict resolution
Marriage & divorce counseling
Yin/yang energy balancing
Dream analysis
How to negotiate with love using supportive language
How to integrate your three ego states
How to flirt like a woman or a man
How to set your limen
How to write a hi/bye letter
I do this by teaching:
Transactional Analysis (TA)
Androgynous Semantic Realignment (ASR)
Conscious communication
The power of childhood scripting
Duty Dating
The three Cs for a successful relationship
The three different kinds of relationships
The three styles of parenting
The psychological causes of disease and the mind/body connection
The five drivers that make you crazy and the five responses to the drivers
What makes a loser in communication and how to be a winner
The causes of addiction and post-addiction issues
Actionable tools to get what you want
INDIVIDUAL AND GROUP SESSIONS AVAILABLE - SINGLE SEX & COED
FAMILIAR AND CONSISTENT WITH THE PRINCIPLES OF ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS AND AL-ANON
About Me
chloe with love
About me: I am a Relationship & Communication Expert and a graduate of Princeton University and the WANT Institute. I teach people to balance their yin (feminine) and yang (masculine) energies through conscious communication. This work appeals especially to Alphas who have both strong feminine and masculine energy.
These tools changed my life and they will change yours. I am now twenty years married. It is part of my life’s mission to bring this work to the next generation. I have dozens of success stories from clients who have used this work to make breakthroughs in their personal and professional lives.
I offer private consultations for women, men, couples, families, and teens; and guide businesses and companies to improve their communication. I also offer packages (see below) and host free weekly groups on the Meetup app. Additionally, I consult on scripts and books regarding authentic relationships and archetypes. Check out the two books I have written: How to Live: Find Love and Keep It, a guide to learning the fundamentals of this work, and New Ways of Being: the Pain of Change, which outlines the next steps to navigate the wonderful changes that result from doing this work. Both are available on Amazon.
Please contact me for further information. I look forward to hearing from you!
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Chloe talks to celebrity trainer Isaac Boots about her book How to Live on Torch’d After Dark.
Relationship and Communication Expert Chloe Ballatore guests on the Round Table Talk Show with Sharifa Hardie
In this episode of #ChloewithLove, I talk to Kerry Phillips and her young widows group about the dynamics of feminine and masculine energies in #dating and #relationships.
Better Relationships, Better Life with Judy Herman
Episode 004: Yin and Yang of Relationships
S2 Ep15 | Special Guest Chloe Ballatore | Relationship and Communication
Flip the Script with Kelly & Emma
PODCAST
The Alpha Girl Podcast
Race for the Ring - Chloe Ballatore
Adam Webber Podcast
Scripted Reactions - Chloe Ballatore
The Cauzmos Podcast
The Basics of Communication
Articles & Excerpts
Cosmopolitan's 21 Spicy Sex Moves Men Crave in the Bedroom
USA TODAY - Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck have us wondering: When is texting your ex a good idea?
Bustle - How To Know When A Relationship Is Over, According To Experts
Bustle - Do I have Chemistry with My Partner? 14 Ways To Tell Early On
Bustle - Weaponized Incompetence, The Common Form Of Gaslighting That's Trending On TikTok
Bustle - 7 Things Couples Fight About That Can Actually Be healthy Can Actually Be Healthy
Bustle - Here’s What To Do When A Partner Doesn’t Say “I Love You” Back
Bustle - 15 Signs That Someone Likes You Based On How They Text
THE SUN - PRO TIPS Four ways to handle overbearing in-laws and maintain the peace, according to relationship experts
POPSUGAR - The No-Contact Rule Is the Only Way to Win Your Breakup
TheEveryGirl - How to Cope With These Common Holiday Triggers
Romper - Experts Explain Why Friendships Change After Baby
Princeton New Books - How to Live
The List - The Sex And The City Scenes That Prove Carrie And Big's Relationship Was Actually Toxic
KOYA - How to Show Up From a Distance
Ask Men - Tips for Dating Someone Sober
Mind Body Green - Is Match.com Worth Trying In 2022? A Full Review Of The Classic Dating App
Ask Men - Cuffing Season Might Be Upon Us, But Don't Expect to Hook Up Much This Year — Here’s Why
The Every Girl - How to Cope With These Common Holiday Triggers
Dating a Coworker Secretly...
This Is the Only Way to Truly Get Over an Ex, According to Experts
How Often Do Couples Fight in a Healthy Relationship?
Signs He Pretends to Love You
How To Relieve Stress: 38 Comments From Therapists, Psychologists & People Who’ve Overcome Stress
Stoic Living via Ben Franklin and Pat Allen
7 Dating Tips for Alpha Women
Author Chloe Ballatore: How To Give Honest Feedback without Being Hurtful
My Favourite Quote: Chloe Ballatore, Chloe’s Consciousness Training
Woman Praised for her no-Nonsense Response to her Boyfriend’s ‘GASLIGHTING’
19 Experts Give Warning Signs Of Divorce You Need To Pay Attention To
What Is Doomscrolling? + 7 Ways To Take A Break From The Anxiety-Inducing News Cycle
Why do Guys Lose Interest in a Woman
Why Worrying is a Waste of Time
How to Help a Friend Deal with a Breakup
How to Stop Nitpicking in a Relationship
Not Just for Veterans Day: 5 Reasons Women Love a Man in Uniform
Testimonials
“I appreciate your work and your support so much. The course has made giant improvements in my life in such a short amount of time. I truly am blown away.”
“I want to say THANK YOU for helping me. I feel so much better and wiser each day!”
“It’s really amazing. You’ve changed my life. I really feel like I have an unfair advantage!”
“What I really like about these modules is we get the theory and then we get to try the theory out by discussing it with you doing things and getting feedback so we can adjust and align ourselves to the best possible advantage.”
“Thank you, Chloe, for your selfless service, for helping all of us. You help so many people. You are truly a guiding light. I really love the language, the approach, the theories. You’re so compassionate. And it’s not just me! I know so many other people appreciate you. Truly from the bottom of my heart, it’s meant a lot to be a part of this. You’ve helped me so much.”
“Chloe is an extraordinary speaker and relationship expert. I had the privilege of having Chloe speak on a panel of experts on the future of matchmaking at the Soho House. Her approach has resonated with me. As an “Alpha Woman, ” I found her advice on balancing our masculine and feminine sides extremely helpful on both a personal and professional level. I recommend Chloe as an expert in consciousness training, interpersonal communications, personal and professional coaching, and ultimately, giving you the tools to get what you want out of life.”
“I put myself as a priority now and it feels so good 🥰”
“Finished the book in a couple of hours last night. So relevant. So approachable. So relatable. I loved it. I will highlight, journal, and bookmark pages over the weekend. I was introduced to the term limiting beliefs but the term life script resonates much more.
The integration that I am working on with my inner child, inner teen, and inner young adult fell right in line with the ego states. I feel closer to peace, happiness, and joy. I still have a lot to do with the feelings of anger, resentment, and victimhood but I see light at the end of the tunnel—without assuming that the light is another train. 😊”
“This work is a game changer! Not even my therapist knows about it!”
“I am starting to really love my little girl.
I feel bad that I have been so hard on her/myself all these years.”
“I am practicing these tools and allowing my husband to take the lead more often. It is pretty nice when you don’t have to control everything. 😆”
“Thank you for helping me. I feel like a queen! You’re a genius!”
“Every time I talk to Chloe I learn something new”
“I’ve had such abundance recently! Such a shift in how I’m handling things and so grateful for you. Seriously, Chloe. I love you.”
“I’m seeing examples of masculine and feminine in relationships all around me, particularly in my close circle…and my friends are having their own breakthroughs in relationships that tie into this work without their knowledge but which I’ve been able to witness. I feel it’s like they say “When you heal yourself you heal the world!”. It’s the real deal.”
“I am writing this letter to recommend Chloe Ballatore. Chloe has studied with me for over five years and is one of the most adept WANT educators with ASR and TA I have ever seen. She is perhaps my favorite protege of all time.
What sets Chloe apart is both her intelligence and compassion. She is able to learn quickly and even more importantly, she is able to integrate what she’s learned into real world tools and actionable advice.
I wholeheartedly recommend Chloe Ballatore for any situation in which counseling or mediation is called for. Good counselors and coaches are very hard to find. She is one of the best. God bless Chloe and her work.”
“Dearest Chloe, I just want to thank you for your awesome help, your dedication to being an amazing person and all the love you pour on everyone around you!”
“Hey Chloe, I just want to say you are really good at this. As you know, I’ve spent trillions of dollars on therapy in the last four years and I feel like I’m making progress with you and it’s very satisfying. I like how focused the work is and we can do just short bursts. Exactly what I need. I think you’re really onto something—this is your calling! I am so thankful for you.”
“ I had a great date last night! he told me he likes the way I communicate ❤️”
“For the first time in a long time, I feel happy on Christmas. That’s really saying a lot.”
“Perfect! You know how to say things short and sweet without overanalyzing!”
“I loved your second book. thank you again. And I keep loaning out the first one you wrote to all my friends. They can’t live without it now 💙 ”
“You show up for people, Chloe. That’s why I love you.”
Schedule Appointment
Bookings are for an hour or half hour. My goal is to help people, thus, I work quickly to teach you the tools that will lead you to a more satisfying and sustaining life.
Eventually, you become your own teacher.
PACKAGES
FIND LOVE & KEEP IT - Module 1
In this program, you will discover how to GET WHAT YOU WANT by negotiating with love ❤️
We will cover:
How to get someone to ask you out/or how to ask them out
How to avoid being a “nag” or a “creep”
How to get a commitment and why that’s important
How to resolve conflicts so you can build on them
How your childhood is affecting your relationship or lack thereof
How the dynamics of yin/yang affect your communication and connection
Join us and put yourself in the power position to level up your whole life!
Price is per person $50/week, four-week commitment
NAVIGATING CHANGE — Module 2
In this program, you will discover how to manage the changes that result from doing this work and increase your capacity for joy ❤️
(Available only to those who have completed Module 1)
We will cover:
How to understand the difference between the pain of change and the pain signaling change needs to take place
How to end self-sabotage
How to deal with triggers
How to identify the difference between abuse and a trigger
How to control that which we can and surrender to that which we can’t
How to feel confident no matter what is happening around you
Join us and learn how to navigate the pain of change!
Small group meets once/week over Zoom. $50/week, four week commitment
NEW WAYS OF BEING—MODULE 3
In this program, you will learn how to break longstanding patterns and discover the freedom that comes from new ways of being ❤️
(Available only to those who have completed Module 2)
We will cover:
How to identify patterns and lay the groundwork for change
How to navigate fear and fear-based decisions
How to set yourself free from triggers
How to support yourself instead of tear yourself down
How the bodymind interacts with well-being including disease
How to cultivate connection with Self and others
Join us and learn to create new ways of being in your life!
Small group meets once/week over Zoom. $50/week, four week commitment
author of New Ways of Being: The pain of change
In her second book, Chloe Ballatore delves deeper into the nature of duality and the inevitable pain of change, even change for the better. This book is full of anecdotes from Ballatore's clients and her own experiences that illustrate the concepts she teaches and the tools for change. Chock full of wisdom and helpful advice, there are inspirational takeaways on every page to help you navigate your own change. This book is a step-by-step guide for people ready to live authentic lives based on cherishing their own feelings and respecting their own thoughts. It will help you troubleshoot the many hurdles along the way and bring you a deeper understanding of your Self and of the dynamics of duality, or yin and yang, that govern life on Earth.
author of HOW TO LIVE: Find Love and keep it
How to Live: Find Love and Keep It is a handbook for the twenty first century about just that. Many of us were given blueprints for life from well-meaning but ill-equipped parents. How to Live replaces those problematic blueprints with instructions on dating and relationships. This book presents explanations on the effects of childhood and scripting, the basics of Transactional Analysis (TA) and Androgynous Semantic Realignment (ASR®). The text is easy to understand and the terminology is defined. It is essential reading for anyone wanting to live a conscious, compassionate life. You will refer to this profound book again and again, and share it with family and friends.
Praise for the Author
“Chloe Ballatore has shared her wisdom when she says, ‘God enters through the wound. My childhood experiences have given me the empathy I need to relate to the world and to my clients.’”
- Dr Pat Allen